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What is your plan to manage money and finances?

It’s important to understand the relationship each partner has with money.

Are you in sync with each other?

People bring their own beliefs about money and financial security into their new marriage. Creating a way to communicate effectively about money and developing a strategy for spending, saving, and debt management is a HUGE asset to the marriage.Not being on the same page about money could cost you a lot!

Journal below about how this works in your relationship and scale your satisfaction with how you talk about and manage this aspect of your relationship.

On a scale of 1 - 10 (1 being the lowest, 10 being the highest), how satisfied are you currently in this area?

In what ways do you each have a healthy individual identity within your couple's relationship?

The idea of being lost in love is so romantic… the stuff fairy tales are made of! Since we so love a happy ending, we know that couples need to learn how to be a great duo, but also be able to maintain their autonomy. Each individual in the relationship needs multiple sources of joy, happiness, and support; not just each other. 

Are you lost in love?

Journal below about how happy are you with how you have maintained your individual identity while being in your relationship?  

On a scale of 1 - 10 (1 being the lowest, 10 being the highest), how satisfied are you currently in this area?

In what ways do you express and validate each other's emotions successfully?

Do you feel seen and heard in your relationship?

Does it feel emotionally safe to be vulnerable?

Does your partner validate your feelings?

These are some of the most important questions a couple should consider when saying “I do”. We all come to our adult relationships with an emotional blueprint – a comfort level with sharing and hearing emotions. Cultivating a way to share your feelings with each other is the foundation of a strong marriage.

Journal below and think about the last time you and your partner attempted to share feelings and validation to show support and understanding. Did you both feel heard? Scale your satisfaction with you and your partner’s ability to express emotions and feel validated.

On a scale of 1 - 10 (1 being the lowest, 10 being the highest), how satisfied are you currently in this area?

Do you know how to fight fairly and work through conflict? 

What does it mean to fight fairly? Some couples struggle to find a way to stay calm during a disagreement. Other couples avoid conflict at ALL costs and issues never get resolved effectively. Some couples can actually come out of an argument feeling closer and more connected than they were before. Is this possible? Let’s talk and discuss how you and your partner can learn to fight fairly and find resolution.

Journal below and think about your last disagreement.

Are you proud of how you both worked through it?

On a scale of 1 - 10 (1 being the lowest, 10 being the highest), how satisfied are you currently in this area?

Do you feel comfortable talking with each other about sex and physical intimacy?

Let’s talk about sex, baby! Sorry… we were teens in the 90’s and that song will be forever in our minds. But really, do you talk about sex and intimacy? So many couples feel uncomfortable or unsure about how to talk about their needs for physical connection. Are you the initiator all of the time? Can you only get physical when the emotional connection is strong? This subject often gets overlooked and avoided because couples struggle to talk about physical intimacy. Let us help teach you to communicate about intimacy and nurture your physical connection!

Journal below and consider, on a scale of 1-10, how effectively do you both communicate about sex and physical intimacy?

On a scale of 1 - 10 (1 being the lowest, 10 being the highest), how satisfied are you currently in this area?

 Have you created healthy boundaries that include work, fun, friends and family?

We know that it is hard to say “no” but saying “yes” all the time can leave couples feeling overcommitted, overworked, and overburdened. Have you and your mate learned how to communicate about your commitments and activities? Is a healthy work-life balance something you’ve talked about? We know how hard this can be, especially when you are merging two families, work commitments, and friend groups. It can be a challenge, but it is possible to set the boundaries you need to strengthen your relationship! We can help you get there!

Journal and rate your satisfaction with how you divide your time amongst work and play, yourselves and your friends and family.

On a scale of 1 - 10 (1 being the lowest, 10 being the highest), how satisfied are you currently in this area?

Do you have a plan of action for dividing household chores and responsibilities?

We know this seems like an easy one, but Wow, does this get couples into some serious arguments! This is a great opportunity to utilize each other’s strengths to manage household tasks and develop communication skills to negotiate the difficulties. Who takes out the trash in your house? How did that job get assigned? Negotiating responsibilities is a long-term project that we can help you start off right!

Make a list below… who is responsible for what chore? Does it feel fair? Sustainable? How satisfied are you with the division of labor in your relationship?

On a scale of 1 - 10 (1 being the lowest, 10 being the highest), how satisfied are you currently in this area?